ahhhh....the facts

this is apparently the real story. which makes my paternal side of the family even more ahead of time.

It wasn't gran's feet that weren't bound, but her mother's ("ah tai"). And it
was Ah Tai's mother who insisted, saying that "who'll marry our daughter if she
has big feet", and Ah Tai's dad vetoed it, saying that "if no one marries her,
I'll provide for her all her life". He was very ahead of his time. And clearly,
he must have loved her very much...

Thanks cuz. :) My dad told me it was gramps!

and people wonder why our family is full of strong willed women. ha. we were liberated earlier. on both sides. *amused*